Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Boyfriend Is Poly… And I’m Maybe Not

Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Boyfriend Is Poly… And I’m Maybe Not

Dear Doc,

I am 10 months into a relationship having a guy that is absolutely wonderful. Our company is appropriate on just about any degree, the chemistry between us is amazing, he really loves my young ones from the past wedding, and we’ve been discussing the alternative of having hitched.

The problem is that he’s polyamorous and I’m maybe not.

he had been already in a relationship with an other woman whenever we began dating, and their relationship has continued. He sees her approximately any other weekend, although he wish to save money time together with her. He’s additionally available to other relationships developing as time goes on. He’s got been available and honest about it right from the start.

No desire is had by me to be poly myself. This guy checks virtually every package to my “want from a relationship” list. But after going right through two divorces due to my lovers’ infidelity, dating a poly man *hurts*. Everytime he’s gone for the I go through fits of anxiety based on my fears of being left for another woman yet again weekend. We generally speaking either lash out until he gets back at him(we’ve had some epic fights over text messages) or I completely emotionally shut down. I’ve told him exactly how this impacts me personally, and while he understands this really is hard in my situation, he states he shouldn’t need certainly to alter whom he’s or just how he really loves due to my insecurities.

help me to, Doc. We don’t understand how to love a poly guy without my worries tearing me personally aside. Exactly what do i actually do to create this relationship work?

Bringing In The Heartbreak

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